To the Heart Breakers

So here's the thing, I was burned by the heart breaker once.  It truly bugs me, especially as a young woman who got caught up in a player's game, to see young men going around using girls like they are play things.  Women are truly special and created with a much higher purpose than to be emotionally abused by an immature jerk.  So here is my letter to the heart breaking player... seven things you should consider BEFORE you break another girl's heart!  

1.)    Dating is not a game

Seriously!  Say it with me now… “Dating is not a game!”  Dating is a great way to get to know somebody you are interested in, somebody who you may spend the rest of your life wife... but it is not a conquest.  It’s okay to determine you are not meant for somebody after dating them (and yes most sensible women know that a relationship may not end in marriage); however, dating for the sole purpose of getting a girl in your bed or to add to your list of “girls who fell in love with me before I broke their heart” is completely wrong.    

2.)   Don’t date without direction

Dating simply for the fun of it is hurtful.  When you date aimlessly with people you obviously will never enter a serious relationship with you are just confusing both your heart and her heart.  Most women are looking for commitment... if you can't give it to them, then let somebody else give it to them.  Which leads into the next point...   

3.)   Stay away from “Casual Relations”

Don’t be fooled by a woman who acts like sex is no big deal… That is not the way women were created.  We are emotionally tied to men we are intimate with.  In fact, even a simple kiss releases chemicals that causes us to connect with each other emotionally.  The fact is, it really is almost impossible to have a true casual relationship with no emotions... somebody WILL have emotions, it's just the way we are wired.  When your head is contradicting your heart... it is very confusing and very hurtful. 

4.)   Women are More precious than jewels

According to Proverbs 3:15, a good wife is more precious than jewels.  Women were not created to be a man’s play toy… we were created to be your spiritual and life partner, to be loved and protected by you, to love you and provide the perfect form of companionship.  Check out this quote by author David O. McKay: “Women were created from the rib of man to be beside him, not from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be trampled by him, but from under his arm to be protected by him, near to his heart to be loved by him.”  Women were created to be precious to you… treat them as such!   

5.)    A little Aretha Franklin would suit you well.  (R.E.S.P.E.C.T.)

Meaning… learn to Respect women, their sexuality and their bodies.  Don’t tease them into doing things they shouldn’t do!  Be the man who strives to keep your woman doing the right and spiritual things, not the snake who leads her astray.  Also, respect yourself… YOU were created with a purpose much higher than breaking hearts.  AND, respect the men who will marry the women you date... which leads me to the next point.   

6.)   She is Somebody elses' Gal

Close your eyes and think about your future for a moment.  Imagine you find the woman of your dreams and completely fall in love with her and build a future with her.  Now think about her years prior to meeting her… imagine her being in a relationship with a man who uses her and hurts her emotionally or even sexually.  How does that make you feel?  If it doesn’t hurt your heart a little… you should probably seek medical attention.  Seriously, you might be a sociopath!  All this to say, the woman you are abusing now is meant to be some other man’s future bride.  Don’t make things harder for him by adding a level of distrust and heartbreak for him to work through.  Treat any woman you date respectfully as if she might be YOUR future bride.   oHow

7.)   You determine your own “price tag”

To put it simply, you ALONE decide your self-worth and ultimately the kind of women you will attract.  If you ever decide you want to fall in love and settle down with the type of woman intended for you and the girl your parents would be proud of… then you will have to clean up your act... But YOU make that decision.  Remember, you were bought by the blood of Christ.  He paid your price so that you didn't have to.  This means, when you set your price tag... you should leave you past out of it, remember you were forgiven for you rocky past, and decided to be the Man God created you to be.  It's never too late... 

God Bless

-Morgan Nicole